Just because I can sense and see spirits around me doesn’t lesson the pain when a special loved one goes into the light.
It certainly helps a lot though. Over the years I have discovered that when I give my own special ceremony or going away party, it helps me to accept their passing much better.
When I get the feeling that they are getting close to moving on, I send them as comforting of thoughts as I can. I mentally suggest they go into the light when there are ready.
Pray that they can let go of any pain, or negative feelings, in your mind send these thoughts to them.
If you know you need to ask for forgiveness, or offer forgiveness if necessary.
Set up a space to celebrate their memory with a really nice picture and flowers. This can serve as a focal point for your special ceremony.
I like to add the elements to offer support, like a pretty crystal for earth element, add some nice incense to represent air. Then you can have a nice bowl of water bring in that element and finally a nice candle for fire element. In this way you can set up the idea of blessing the body back to the earth and asking the Holy Spirit to guard and protect the soul.
Offer music to act as a life song that could represent them and how they lived while on this earth journey.
Then offer a death song at the completion of the ceremony, to act as a vehicle of power to help them take what they gained here on this earth plane into the next dimension.
Ask the Archangels, Masters and Holy Spirit to bless their death journey. I particularly call in Archangel Raphael, Michael, Ariel and Haniel to guard the body and consecrate it back to earth and I ask the Master Jesus along with Mother Mary to provide an escort to the spirit world.
You can substitute what feels right to you, and what fits in with your mystery tradition.
Trust your instinct, the hand of the Holy Spirit is always involved and will help out to.
Hold visions for them stepping into the light in a powerful way.
When I do this ceremony I use certain tools to help me focus.
You don’t have to do that, this is definitely a time to to be ok with improvising. Let your heart be a guide and trust that all of this will be received with love and appreciation.
One thing I like to do is let their spirit know what they learned from them. How they touched the world with beauty. In your words.
As far as timing, wait at least 3 days to do anything with the body.
I suggest you wait to mourn until at least 7 days after the death. Give the soul time to process it all. Just tell your self you will grieve after their soul has safely crossed over. This is their time, not yours. I do know this is easier said than done. In my mediumship readings the spirits often will mention something about the time they moved through the veil between the worlds.
Use something special in the ceremony that they would appreciate, for instance if they loved irises and dogs, weave those into your altar and songs.
Traditional death journey songs are: Amazing Grace, I will Fly Away, I come to the garden alone, Seven Spanish Angels, Rest High on The Mountain and many more. If you are stuck for inspiration, quite your mind and call up their highest guardian angel to send you an idea of what they would most like.
This is a picture of me with my Aunt Irlene who passed this last week. She has always been a huge source of inspiration for me.
May she be at peace with her soul’s journey, knowing how much we all loved her!!
(c) April 2016
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