Each week I take a question off my Facebook Wall to answer in this column:
Today Heather R writes: I have a trip planned to see my parents this month and I am really stressing out because I get in arguments with my dad. I really love him but he pushes my buttons like nobody on earth. Why is this? How can I visit without getting into arguments with him?
Often the people that set us off the most are very much a part of our soul family.
From a higher level they are very committed to helping us make the most out of our journey here on this earth plane.
That help might include pointing out to us how we are being short sighted and limiting our self.
We can’t make adjustments and refine our self unless we can see some of our flaws or short comings. These are the people that will surely point those out … to our dismay !
We may think they are being mean and hateful.
One of the ways our highest master teacher knows when we are ready for bigger and better things is to see how we respond when our world gets rocked and we are challenged.
Do we stay calm or do we fly off the handle in anger or any other negative emotion ???
If you respond with negative emotions, your highest master teacher knows you are not ready to move on. So it is back to the drawing board for you.
We are hard wired to want to make some spiritual progress.
Our ego may not know it, but our soul does. It is not judged from the Holy Spirit as a fail, just noted. Other opportunities will come along very shortly.
How To Deal With The Button Pushers In Your Life
When some one is pushing your buttons, do your best to respond calmly and with love.
Our goal is to not go to extremes of emotions.
Meaning not too happy or sad. Just even! That is a safe zone. Think Zen~~~~~~
In order to be a channel for more energy we have to be steady as a rock and have a calm demeanor.
If we are all over the place, it is like a bottle rocket being shot off by an unsteady hand.
Once you have been able to stay in that calm zone, spirit can start bring you up the ranks higher, to deeper levels of understanding and self mastery. And, also trust you to be responsible with more power and energy.
Our personal relationships are used from spirits perspective to test and see how we are doing.
So knowing this about spirit and how your dad gets you going, do your best to be looking for the lessons as you interact with your dad. Realize it might be a test.
The family are most likely not aware they are participating. They are just operating from instincts. You have a clue though now 🙂