With Good Self Respect, Life Goes Smoother!
Each week I take questions from my Facebook Wall to answer here on this page. If you have a question, you can leave it on my wall and I might choose it for this column.
This is a message from one of my Facebook friends and client:
In the area of frustration—-yesterday I let myself burn up all my energy with negative emotional thoughts. While at the gym, I was bullied by two arrogant young men. I feel like I let myself take on dark energy of some sort. I could use a quick fix I could deploy in public to keep that from taking hold of me. I am not mentally ill, but I do need to get over habitually mulling over bad interactions. Your spiritual mentoring direction would be most welcome.
Thanks and Happy Independence Day. .
With gratitude, Dorthy
I totally get what you are talking about. We have all been there at one time or another. It is hard for us to believe that other souls sometimes cooperate to help us really “get” a lesson. Especially when they are so believable as brats!
We are all connected through the Divine and all of our Angels are connected. They get together and arrange life lessons, challenges and opportunities to prove our self and our commitment to integrity and excellence. Or to show us were we are out of integrity and why we should get back to that state of grace.
I am happy you were able to stand up for your space in the gym in a good way. That shows a lot of strength and resolve.
As far as a quick fix goes, this is a good time to do some positive self talk. Have a go to prayer when you feel out of sorts. Some of the ones I have used in the past that help me are The 21st Psalm, The Hail Mary’s, The Our Father and The Om.
Diffusing The Troublemakers!
Those prayers can counter the dark energy that sneaks up and starts to make things worse. Have you ever heard the term “trouble makers”, well there are entities that have the job of looking for vulnerable people here and then doing what they can to create chaos, anger, and other negative emotions.
Knowing how to diffuse the energy yourself, keeps you from falling into their nasty traps.
They are very good at it. Just take a look at the horrible political climate these days. Negative entities thrive on this stuff and will make use of all kinds of innocent people that aren’t paying attention and play into their hands.
Once they get everyone fired up, they milk the occasion for all the negative energy they can. The more it escalates the better they feed off the energy.
You can use a prayers, chant or mantra to help you simmer your self down and get your self out of proximity to the trouble makers. My favorite is to chant Hail Mary’s, it is super simple and still very powerful.
Sometimes we mull things over until we feel we have completed the scene with integrity and feel complete with it. If we can’t go back and say something, we may need to forgive our self for not thinking on our feet as fast as we wish we had of.
Then make some movement to put it all behind you. Be gentle with your self! Self respect is powerful!
If for some reason you feel you can’t shake the dark energy, then consider booking a soul clearing. I have several protocols in my soul clearing work to banish and remove negative entities, and clean up the residue they left behind.
This message reminds me of the Native American animal totem the Skunk.
Skunk Medicine Teaches Self Respect
Skunk Medicine is a great teacher of self respect. The skunk doesn’t have a whole lot of tools to defend him self but he does have a reputation. He handles himself with dignity. This reminds us to behave with dignity and self respect when we feel threatened and backed into a corner.
Bullies try their skills on anyone that they can, but they know when to back down. When someone looks them in the eye, knowing what they are made of, bullies look for easier game.
My feeling is that you are learning to respect your self and your journey here, but still have a little bit of tweaking.
Our family and friends can brag and compliment us all day long, but we need to practice healthy self talk to our self on a regular basis. I suggest using affirmations to help you get a better sense of self respect and self love going on.
Our unconscious mind is always paying attention, and mulling over what our ego minds talks about and thinks about.
It also knows when you really mean it by the way of your emotional body. That is why it is important to get your self into the “feeling” of your desire as if you have it now. Use your Imagination!! Hone your Pretend Skills! Develop better creative use of your mind always!!
Some of my favorite affirmations for this challenge are:
“I deserve to be treated well!”
“People are always nice and helpful to me!!”
“I seem to bring out the best in people!”
I suggest you say these morning, noon and night to get your vibration tweaked and vibrating at a different level.
The aggressive energy of the bullies is showing that you still have some residual fears from your days of living with aggressive and mean men, and are giving yourself considerably less self respect than you deserve.
It would be helpful to do some of the soul clearing work on a regular basis. In your program there are several pieces that talk about different ways you can engage with stuff like this.
We will be working through our personal pieces for as long as we are here in a body on some level or another. When you really get a theme, your Angels will just take you down another rabbit hole for you to think about and apply your self too.
In the meanwhile, get your self a little skunk totem and let it serve as a reminder to always respect your self and your souls commitment to this journey.
Know in your heart of hearts that you are a blessed child of God/Goddess and are very deserving of respect, love and opportunities while you are here in a physical body !