Each week I take a question from my Facebook page to answer here in this column. If you have a question you can leave one on my page and you might see it answered in my blog.
Today’s question is from one of my readers; he writes in that he is addicted to porn and feels really guilty about this and would like to have some ideas to stop this destructive habit.
I agree, this is a terrible habit that can have very serious and negative consequences. Often started very early on, as young as age 6 or 7.
This is a case of operating through a shadow part of our self, or working our dark side. It might be something that our soul wanted to really dive into while we are here, our family life style might have triggered it, there are lots of other possibilities. Transforming this habit is a great opportunity to work on your personal self mastery.
That is what self mastery is all about. Working on our personal pieces, healing the things that are in the dark.
The Role Your Chakras Play
Knowing the chakra system and how a chakra should preform when it is balanced is helpful. When we have twisted hungers and express our selves in a deviant way, often our root or sacral chakra is out of balance. If left out of balance it can lead to serious medical problems and very destructive problems.
When it is out of balance we don’t have access to it’s “light” qualities. And they are significant!!! That would be a balanced and healthy sexual since of self, a healthy physical body, a very creative mind, an ability to put our self out in the world with our natural creative self in a positive way.
When we have a huge appetite to view porn, we are not balanced in our chakra’s, particularly the 2nd one.
Understanding Natural Hungers
In some of the mystery school paths this would be a case of natural hungers not being met. We all have natural hungers as a part of our human experience. Porn is not a natural hunger; anything that comes at the expense of another living being is not a natural hunger. Knowing what are natural hungers in the light and how we can feed them properly can be helpful
Ted Bundy was interviewed in prison and talked a great deal about his addiction to porn and how it directly led him down a murderous path. He said that all of the men in prison for murder that he talked to or knew about had the same porn addiction.
Our sexuality is connected through our sacral chakra. When it is out of balance we may feel these perverse desires to view pornography to feed a hunger that is not being met. When the chakra is balanced it helps us interact with others in a mutual way of giving and receiving intimacy or love. In metaphysics it represents the Law of Cause and Effect.
A few things we can do to help regain balance in our Sacral Chakra:
Work on developing better self respect, and self love. Think about how much love or self respect that you think you deserve right now. If you can measure it on a scale of 1-10, what is it? If it is a 5, then determine to your self that you are going to expand that to a 10 or more. You are the determiner in your soul journey. Don’t let any one else do that for you or tell you what you are worthy of. A lot of my mediumship readings help un-ravel how you can be more of a determiner, rather that just take what comes your way.
Fear of being out of control or losing your job, or your money is another sign of having imbalance here. You have to find some way of getting a different perspective. I recommend you ask your Angels to stream some ideas to you that will help you understand your natural ability here as a creator and that your soul can always help you position your self to be a part of this earth plane in a good way.
If this chakra is out of balance you might have a hard time sharing your emotions and hide them for fear of not being loved. Often people who have eating disorders too have un-balanced sacral chakras.
Depression is another sign of a sacral chakra spinning out of balance.
Use color to match the proper vibration; in this case use the color orange. You can wear the color , even use orange underwear to expose your self to the correct vibration. I use a orange carnelian when I feel this chakra needs a boost. Stick it in your pocket, or bra. Even cutting out a piece of orange construction paper and sticking that in your back pocket can be helpful . When using color, look for a bright clear orange. Not a muddy or pale shade.
Use minerals to raise the vibration and adjust it. Use Carnelian to balance the chakra and encourage love to replace lust. It is known that Carnelian stones were used on the breast plate of the High Priest and High Priestess to help them use their sensuality and sexuality in the light, rather than mis-use their power. Moonstone’s can help alleviate sexual tension and adjust the chakra.
Garnet, Rose Eye Agates, Fiery agate and Tigers Eye are great to use too. You can wear them as jewelry or carry them in a pocket or bag close to you. Sleep with some around your bed, but not too many at once.
If you need to, build a small grid under your bed with some of these stones to help heal you and balance you while you sleep.
Clearing work is very helpful here. Exploring through soul clearing where you have out standing contracts from past lives that are still corded to you. Then doing the proper prayers and activating the codes in the clearing is very helpful. Often entities are attached here and are basically pulling the strings to get you to operate against what you know is right for their own agenda. This is never healthy and if left unchecked can lead to devastating consequences. Think about the Ted Bundy’s of the world.
Foods that can help heal and balance are things in the orange category, like oranges, carrots, pumpkins, salmon and other orange foods. Use organic and raw where ever possible.
Essential oils can be very healing too; like sandalwood, jasmine, coriander, tangerine and cinnamon. Use them in incense and good essential oils on the body or in a diffuser in your work or living space. This is a very underused healing process!
Hypnosis can assist you in breaking this destructive habit. You can explore self hypnosis or find a guide to help you. A good trigger that you can use is to tap into your palm a handful of ideas that you can do when ever you have an urge to look at porn.
You can tap into prayer, meditation, run a few miles, do some yoga, focus on breathing, call a mentor, call your Angels ect.. When you think of a positive thing to do to replace the porn habit, tap it into your palm 3 times. Then anytime you have a desire to view porn, rub the palm and let all of the ideas resurface to your conscious mind. Then choose one or more to do instead.
You may need to find a therapist to help you replace the habit. All of us respond to some types of reminders better than others. Figure out the way you like to be reminded and set your self up for success as best you can. The main thing is to make up your mind you are going to change this, once you have made up your mind it is just a matter of taking action as the pieces fall into place.
Knowing our good, bad and ugly is important to figure out. We can’t refine a quality if we don’t recognize it as being in the dark. When you under take a healing journey, it is amazing at what you learn about your self along the way. You learn more about human nature and your connection to creation. See more about my Self Mastery BootCamp Here
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