A Mindset Tweak Is A Perfect Adjustment Tool
You know you need a mindset tweak when you feel stuck in a holding pattern. Some people might call it an attitude adjustment. A good attitude does help, but all the thoughts processes are important too.
Each week I take questions from my Facebook Page, this week Amber wrote: My life and career are moving along really well. I just feel a little ho-hum about things and stuck. How can I shake things up?
It is sad but true that most of our family have taught us to not worry or care if our job is meaningful. As long as we have a job, they teach us that we will be OK.
Too many times our teachers and image makers just teach us to be OK with getting by and surviving life. Not as mention of “Thriving”.
Ho-Hum Happens When You Get Complacent With Life
Quite often in order to really thrive, we have to make some big risks. The risks are not so scary if we engage them with a healthy Mindset!
Over the years I have used several mindset tweaks to help me pass through some big challenges.
One of the mindset tools I use a lot is affirmations. This helps the ego mind/self affirm ideas to help you feel safe and on track with your conscious desires. For instance, you are driving at night out of town and start to feel a panic sort of feeling coming on. A mindset tweak would be to tell your self that “I am safe”, ” my car is running fine”, “I have plenty of fuel”, ” I know where I am going”, “I have a good GPS”.
Another mindset tool you can use is called “scripting”. The idea is to imagine or even speak out loud what you want to unfold. See your self driving along safely, enjoying your music. Envision your self arriving at your destination feeling good and right on time.
You can use Mindset tweaks to help you do well at a new job interview, first date or even a dentist appointment.
My high school gym coach taught me to use hypnosis when I was in 9th grade. She used simple hypnosis suggestions to help our class wind down after a rough basketball session. This helped us focus on our next class.
My first job was as a rodeo cowgirl. There was quite a mindset adjustment for me to be comfortable Standing on a running horse for crying out loud 🙂 I could do all the strap trick that kept you close to the center of the horse, but standing on top was way out of my comfort zone. (Those pictures of me standing on top of a moving horse and doing a Cossack Death Drag at the top of this article are from my Trick Roping days 🙂 )
My teacher told me you have to “Imagine Your Self standing up” Trust Your self!! Then you have to commit and follow through. 🙂
I teach several Mindset tweaks, tips and techniques in my Self Mastery Boot Camp.
(c) Jan 2017
The Darkest Hour Is Just Before Dawn
When we are locked in our darkest hour, the Universe has a way of showing us an amazing revelation of light within the dark.
Each week I take a question on my Facebook wall to answer here in this blog about different spiritual situations.
This week Diane P. wrote~ My husband just passed away, I never dreamed I would lose the love of my life this soon. His illness and death have left me devastated not just emotionally but financially too. He was the joy of my life and we did not get to say good bye. If it were not for our fur babies I would not be able to go on at all. This is truly my darkest hour, I don’t know how I can move on through this!
Just so you know Diane, I have been struck by devastating loss too! It does take a lot of time to wrap our mind around it and push our way through it.
When we are in deep grief, our energy field is like a big wet wool blanket. It is heavy for us to carry and it is a barrier from the spirit world. Effectively keeping out our loved ones spirit from interacting with us.
This is one good reason to try to heal, just knowing that the more you are able to break up that grief energy, the easier it will be for your special loved one to get a word in to you. Maybe a sign or even a direct message.
Give It Up To A Higher Power To Deal With!
It helps to give it up to a higher power, however you see that. For instance, “Universe, thank you for reminding me of my souls original path and purpose”. And “Thank you Holy Spirit for lifting the sadness that is wrapped around me”. Another good affirmation here is: “I am grateful to receive the light and love from your highest source”.
Recognize that you have suffered a wound and need time and some resources to heal this wound in your darkest hour.
Think about creating a healing plan. Think about who can be your partners in this. A best friend, church leader, counseling or someone like me.
You can get a lot of healing accomplished in ceremony, meditation and prayer. So design your life to include a lot of these things.
I highly suggest a minimum of 10 minutes a day meditation, if you can’t focus on that. Just sit with spirit, light a small candle and ask your angels to sit with you and help inspire you with ideas to move through this.
Realize that a lot of people have been dealt horrific blows and have came back stronger than ever. I think ceremony is a great way to “pull your self back together”.
Ceremony Helps Pull Us Through Our Darkest Hour!
My favorite is the sweat lodge ceremony. It is pretty hard to do but very rewarding. I think we all need a way of purging our pain, bad thoughts and even toxins.
The sweat ceremony is one way to do that. There are a lot of ways to create ceremony in your life, I have used a burning bowl ceremony as a way to release pain too. It works really well.
You can create an Angelic ceremony. Just bring a few beautiful Angels into your room, light some incense and burn a few beautiful candles. Call in all of the aspects of creation into your space along with the Angelic Realm. Let them know about your pain, your fears or worries. Ask them for some ideas to go on. Then you must quite your mind to hear their response !
This is a great way to help you push on through the dark hour to the light of dawn. With that comes some revelations of your connection to this person. The significance of it and possibly some reason to help you keep going.
I have a ton of ideas for this on my blog, You Tube Channel and iTunes Podcast. All are free to you!
I think when we give our self up to our original path and purpose we start to get the inspiration of how and why to go on. That act of surrender offers a channel into the truth of our being, where we get the ideas of what to do next.
Mediumship is my calling, if you would like me to read for you let me know and we can set up a time! See my info on mediumship readings here:
(c) Jan 2017
The effects of depression can paralyze and limit your ability to cope
Depression is a hard demon to deal with and it has claimed far to many souls in my life.
Each week I take questions from my Facebook page to answer here in this column. This week Dave writes: I am just venting but i tell you there are days were i just want to check out and go home.
Yes, Dave I do hear you loud and clear. The way you word your message and the fact that you don’t capitalize your “i” says a lot.
When you are feeling insignificant and low, your hand writing reflects that. Sometimes you have to dig down deep to “remember” what your soul wanted to experience while you are here.
No one can do that for you but you. Keep asking your angels and Highest Guardian Angel to help you remember why you are here.
You have to find quiet time in your life to hear them. You can break the depression cycle when you create alone time to pray, take long quite walks in Nature, do some personal ceremonies or meditations.
Healing can happen with some diligent practice and steadfast determination!
You are a very sensitive soul, and you are not at all alone. I meet super sensitive souls all the time in my line of work with mediumship.
Being sensitive in this case means you can feel the spirit world and would rather be there than here. Which doesn’t make it right for you to take steps to make that happen. ie; suicide
I think sometimes depression is a reflection of us not properly digesting our experiences here. So in that case, you have to find other ways to look at life and the cards you have been dealt.
A big part of your goal for coming to this planet is to challenge yourself. Your Angels work hard to help organize little opportunities for you to push your comfort zone.
Soul clearing is one way to back out of your space any negative influences that are sucking the life out of you. The process also helps you to get some clues of where you are on forgiveness issues. If you have unfinished business with other souls, it leaves a taint on you until you forgive and take steps to make things right. Or as the case may be, the other party forgives you of a wrong.
There are more ways than one to sort this out. I offer the soul clearing and mediumship in my work. You can also use other therapies to help you get back into balance — Counseling, Emotional Freedom Technique, Purification Ceremonies, Shamanic Ceremonies, Qi Gong and many more.
Each of the 8 Great Powers will offer ways of reclaiming our soul pieces and healing.
One healing idea is to spend some time each day checking in with Mother Earth, also known as Gaia.
She is a living breathing Angelic being in her own right.
She personally invited you to this dimension for the purpose of immersing your self in a physical form. We willingly do this so we can learn from this physical immersion. The feelings of being limited by our physical body. As well as all the needs of the body. This whole huge mish-mash of stimulation.
She agreed to be a support to you and a source of encouragement when you got down. If you just look around with fresh eyes, you will see that she is trying, even as we speak, to help you remember more of who you really are on a soul level.
You might catch a glimpse of a sun ray, or a beautiful hawk will fly beside you as you drive to work. A chance fragrance as you walk into the post office. There are many ways she speaks to all of us. Through the animals we see, the plants might share their delightful fragrance, the stars, moon and everything in between. They do this to catch your attention. To help you think in a different way. Consider there is more going on that what we might have thought.
Stay in tune with the tides for grounding ideas!
My teacher always recommended that we follow the tides of the Universe. Like the full and new moons, the equinox and solstice seasons. Stay in touch with what is happening in the Universe. This has a way of helping you get in touch with your self, what is going on to cause depression and suicidal thoughts.
I intend these ideas be a source of inspiration for you and others with ideas of suicide and checking out.
That is not an answer and will only keep you in this sad cycle for another life journey until you work your way through it. So make up your mind to work your way through this in this life time.
When you are dreaming with spirit, is it a real visit from the other side?
This week I dive into our dreams and the way the spirit world connects to us from the other side of the veil.
Each week I take a question from my Facebook page to answer here in this column.
This week Rene M writes:
Marveena, I have dreams but I can never remember them when I wake. What can I do to help remember them? Also, it’s usually dreams I have of my family who’ve passed. I have seem them talking to me but I can’t hear them or I can’t remember what they’ve said. What can I do to remember? Rene M
How To Remember Your Dreams
There is a lot of things you can do to remember your dreams and work with them more closely! There are tons of books about dreaming and how to decode the signs, symbols and spirits visits you see.
If you are really interested in this, I suggest you begin to put together a dream library. Take a pen, and note book to keep by your bed. Make a nightly ritual to intend to remember your dreams when you wake up. Then when you first wake up, train your self to lay still think backwards to your dreams, what were you thinking of right before you woke up. What was the tone of the dream? Did it feel dark and sad? Light and happy? Did you recognize spirits in? Did it leave you feeling up lifted or warned?
It takes a while to train your self and develop mastery over your dream time. It can pay off though to take some time to do this.
How Dreaming With Spirit Help Us Refresh Our Soul
Our dreams are one way the our higher self offers advice, ideas, creativity, solutions and warnings to us. It is a time that our loved ones on the other side can actually visit us. The Holy Spirit allows this. It is one way of keeping us sane here, and gives a lot of us a great sense of peace. It helps knowing that there family members are OK.
Dreaming with spirit is a great source of joy, we can reconnect to these wonderful souls we have loved before. It nourishes us on a deep level.
Because the earth plane is so unique in the way it is set up, it offers us a lot of opportunity to evolve beyond what we could do on the some of the other spirit realms. We have a sense of naivete, and have to trust in our self that there is more on the other side.
Understanding The Tone Of Your Dreams
If there are troubled souls on the other side, for instance some one who passed as a suicide, dreaming with spirit might feel sad or even scary.
Below is a short video on suicide souls:
Troubled Souls Have Work To Do On The Other Side
As troubled souls are working through their personal disappointments here, they might transfer some of that sadness and frustration to us in a dream. Souls that crossed as a suicide have to work their issues in spirit too.
When you can’t understand them, you have to trust the tone of the dream. Did it feel off, or uncomfortable. If so, it might be that they have not been able to process their journey or want to ask forgiveness. If you can let go of any resentment or negative emotions about their transition that helps to free up their energy a lot. Use your intuition!
Dreaming with spirit gives us another opportunity to say good bye, or say whatever needs to be said. It gives both the spirit and you some solace that the separation is temporary.
Negativity Has Consequences!
Usually if a soul is very negative here on this plane, they choose that way of living for a purpose and when they get to the other side they will have to process some of this stuff.
Souls choose a polarity to work with while they are here, just like some are dedicated to working with the light, there are some who are just a dedicated to working with the dark. Then there are others who are sort of neutral and are not sure what they want, still deciding. The light workers are really wanting to sway them to our side. If you are reading my material, I think you can safely say you are working with the light. The work I do as a medium is part of my blessing as a light worker.
Knowledge Is Power!
I know that you worry about these dreams, which makes me feel that either you are not at peace with their transition, or you fear they are not happy on the other side. Knowledge is power, so take some time to develop an understanding of the dreams, and apply the self mastery necessary to get better at conscious dreaming.
Death is a part of our life cycle, when we can be more at peace with life after death, we can live more vibrantly!
If you are interested in learning more about these ideas, particularly dreaming with spirit. Think about my apprentice program or self mastery bootcamp.
PS: Actualizing your dreams , especially your souls sacred dream is the most important thing you can do here. Make it your business to take a step everyday towards that goal !