Making peace with someone who has died is a challenge, but still possible! I will explain how in my article below.
Each week I take questions off my Facebook Page to answer in here in this column.
Samantha K writes:
My brother passed away and we were on very bad terms with each other. Lately I have felt so drawn to make peace with him and just don’t know how or why I have such a pull to do something now.
A long time ago when we did a reading on this karmic filled relationship, you saw a dark spirit over him. I was also wondering why a dark entity would let the body of his host get a disease??
Quite often people who have drug or alcohol tendencies open them self up to psychic attack and wind up hosting ugly spirits.
You might have seen a glimmer of the ugly spirit from time to time. Like the way sometimes your brother’s eye’s take on a different look, even shimmer or red eye.
Or when you are talking to him and he doesn’t sound like him self at all. This is when the evil being is present in the host body. The ugly or evil spirits suck the life right out of our physical bodies.
They use our life force energy for their own purpose. They do this because they are disconnected from the light. Unfortunately hosting an ugly spirit has a terrible affect on your body.
The organs eventually shut down and disease develops because the life force energy is not available to nourish the body. When they wear out one human host body, they hop on over to the next.
No skin off their nose at all. If the evil spirit knew that the host was particularly valuable they might take steps to protect it from harm or preserve it as long as they could.
Usually the evil/ugly spirits can just go on to the next victim with out much effort. They really understand how to play to peoples weakness, fears, vanity to get a foot into the door. Once they get in, it is quite a challenge to get them out. Soul clearing work is the most effective way I have found to do this.
In answer to your questions, His spirit is connecting to you to ask for your help and for your forgiveness. I know it is weighing very heavy on you about not making up with your brother while he was still alive.
A part of your spirit feels like you failed an important test of your integrity. The good news is that you will have opportunities to make up to your brother even with him on the other side.
I suggest you create a special ceremony to do this, with the intention of calling his spirit and Highest Guardian Angel, along with your own Highest Guardian Angel in to help you settle your differences, forgive each other and open your heart back to him.
You can also ask what ever Higher Power and other Master teachers, Avatars and Angels to assist for truth to be spoken and clear communications. In this case I would also call upon the Archangels for assist him with his karma, and releasing any spirits that might still be corded to him.
After you have done all of this, let your heart talk to him. Share your grief, sadness, worry, anger, frustrations, your love, even your hopes and dreams for him on the other side.
When the dark spirits move out, you will know. You might even see them, the room and atmosphere will lighten up a lot. You won’t feel as much of a negative charge on the situation.
Give him some time to share with you, totally quite your mind and allow your self to “hear” his thoughts. They will just drift across your mind a little at a time. It is important when working with spirit that we don’t do all the talking, some of the most value out of the whole ceremony might be in the listening phase.
Take the time to do this and you will benefit.
When you feel complete or neutral you will know that you have been successful with this. If you don’t feel right, meditate on what is the thing bugging you or him. You might need to do some work with a medium to get down to the nitty gritty of what is wrong. In the end it is worth our time and energy to take the time it takes to do all of this,
Just because they are on the other side doesn’t mean that we can’t continue our friendship and connection. We just have to use more of our resourcefulness to do that. Usually when you are on a balanced level, you will be able to have positive dreams and feelings of your loved one on the other side. You won’t feel clinched up every time you think about them. It will just feel complete or right.
(C) July 2015