Self-Love sets the point of attraction for a lot of our life circumstances.
When you have a great sense of appreciation and self love, your ability to attract on all levels is magnified!
A lot of my friends have been asking questions on my Facebook page. I take one question a week to answer here:
Question From Jaclyn:
I really want to help animals and people in bad situations. But I am having a hard time making ends meet and my own health is terrible. Plus I am in an abusive relationship. Why doesn’t God help me?
Answer From MarVeena:
You have heard this before but I really believe that God/Goddess helps those who help them self.
Start with desire! The desire to be in your sweet spot.
Healer heal thy self first! You have to get into balance before you can be of value to anyone else. Don’t worry about saving the world until you have taken care of your own day to day reality.
My teacher taught us to take care of our “tonal”reality. A lot of times people get all psyched up about serving mankind, when they need to get their own affairs in order first.
We need our foundation and things running smoothly before we can extend our energy to inspire others.
I can see your heart is in a good place. Do some deep soul searching to find your fears.
While you are at it, figure out why you have such a low sense of self-worth that you allow yourself stay in an abusive relationship.
I saw an awesome video on Facebook the other day of a dad talking to his little girl about knowing her own value and worthiness.
A lot of us don’t have this support when we are growing up. So you have to do that for your self.
Be your own coach or cheer leader. That’s right, talk to your self. A lot if you need continual support.
One of the most important relationships we have is with our self, our Holy Guardian angel and our inner child.
We pull mystic inspiration from our Holy Guardian Angel.
Our inner child is the part of you that is afraid to be alone. Maybe scared she can’t make it on her own. Afraid of failing again in a relationship. Maybe afraid of dying, afraid of being wrong !
The inner child has a lot of fears. Our inner child can offer a world of creativity when she feels safe and supported.
Some one told me a long time ago “if the kid’s not happy, no one is happy”.
You can’t tap into that enthusiasm and creativity of the inner child as long as she feels wounded and abandoned.
You want to set the kid down and have some daily conversations to help her create a good sense of self worth. How to love her self and know she is lovable, strong and can create good health and fun opportunities.
Whether you are already in a love relationship, waiting for a love relationship, or getting over the heartache of a love relationship, I have a secret to tell you. There is still yet a greater Love Affair waiting for you to realize. Let me tell you how!
Have a love affair with yourself!
In other words, whatever you are willing to do right now for someone else to win their love, to prove your love to them, or to earn their love in return, is actually only what you need to do with and for yourself.
Your desires of others is what you want someone else to do for or towards you. One cannot expect others to do what only you can provide for yourself.
Only you can fulfill those expectations, no one else has that ability.
Someone can try, but it will cause frustration because it is your vision only you can fully understand.
If you can do that for yourself, fulfill your love desires for yourself, then your needs are taken care of always.
When you cultivate love in that manner, then you will appreciate how others express love towards you, not expecting love in the way that only you can provide for yourself.
You will see your expectations as just that, your expectations, ones that you have created yourself only, and ones that only you can fulfill.
It is literally a fact of the responsibility of self love that it can never, ever come from someone else.
To ask or expect someone else to even attempt to fulfill those love expectations, is to set yourself up for disappointment, and set the other person up for failure before they even begin.
Literally make a list of qualities you are looking for in someone else, what you expect in them, and what you are willing to do for their love.
Then make it your daily aspiration to become those qualities, to fulfill those expectations, and to fulfill those to do items as if YOU are THEM. You may find that you can’t do it, that maybe it’s all too much.
It is a matter of self exploration where we begin to see how we may have unrealistic expectations of others through realizing and understanding those expectations projected onto ourselves.
It may be uncomfortable, but it provides a realistic image of what we expect of others, and in all truth, ultimately of ourselves.
This is where self love begins, when we notice our expectations may be even too big for ourselves. So, we cut back, refine, and reshape with love our expectations of ourselves.
If it’s too much, we can ask for help from our team of angels and guides to help us dumb it down realistically. Love doesn’t have to be complicated, in fact, it’s supposed to be easy.
It is supposed to come with the grace of an Angel’s touch.
Only we can make that happen for ourselves.
We ALL have the power of the Divine with us at all times to help in the affairs of love, self love, and romance. Have a love affair with yourself ALWAYS!
Remember that there can be no “WE” without the “ME.” YOU are the bonus from the Universe! Live it with gratitude, beauty, and ease!
MarVeena Meek (c) Sept 2014